You Can Be Right or You Can Be Curious: A Leadership Perspective

In today’s world, where the political climate resembles a high-stakes reality show—complete with dramatic music and surprise eliminations—the quest for being "right" has become an Olympic sport. If you’ve ever found yourself in a debate about anything from climate change to whether pineapple belongs on pizza, you know the drill: the urge to prove your point, stand firm in your beliefs, and declare victory with the flair of a game show host. But what if I told you that in the epic showdown of “right vs. curious,” curiosity might just take home the gold—and it doesn’t even need to wear a medal?

Let’s face it: being right feels fantastic. It’s like finding that last piece of chocolate in the bottom of the box—pure bliss! But the trouble with being right is that it often leads to shutting down ideas, dismissing perspectives, and let’s be real, losing potential friends faster than you can say “hot dog sandwich debate.” Remember that time you argued passionately about whether a hot dog is a sandwich? Sure, you may have won the debate, but did you really win the day? Or did you just become known as the person who can’t let go of culinary classification?

In an increasingly polarized world, choosing curiosity is like discovering a superpower in your leadership toolkit. When we lean into curiosity instead of clinging to being right, we open ourselves up to learning, understanding, and—dare I say it—growth. This is where adult development struts in like a wise old sage. As we age, ideally, we move beyond thinking in absolutes, from clinging to our beliefs like a toddler to a security blanket, to embracing the beautiful chaos of nuanced perspectives.

Curiosity invites dialogue. It encourages us to ask questions rather than hurl accusations. “Why do you think that?” becomes a bridge across the chasm of disagreement, while “You’re wrong!” serves only to build walls taller than the Great Wall of China. In a time when political discourse can feel like dodgeball—where the aim is to dodge responsibility rather than engage—being curious allows us to catch the ball, examine it, and maybe even toss it back in a way that sparks a conversation rather than a confrontation.

Now, don’t get me wrong; there’s definitely a time to stand your ground. Sometimes, it’s crucial to plant your flag and defend your position. But it’s equally vital to recognize when that flag has morphed into a battle standard, rallying an army of “us vs. them.” The magic happens when we can hold our beliefs lightly—like a feather rather than a brick. It becomes possible to defend a viewpoint while still expressing genuine interest in the opposing side.

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Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in this dynamic. Being aware of our own emotions and those of others paves the way for better communication. When we approach conversations with curiosity, we create a safe space for others to share their thoughts. It’s like hosting a dinner party where everyone feels welcome to bring their own dish instead of just having a potluck of stale arguments.

So, the next time you find yourself in a heated discussion—whether it’s about the latest political scandal or the great pineapple pizza debate—ask yourself: “Am I trying to be right, or am I ready to be curious?” The answer might just lead you to a more fulfilling conversation and perhaps even a new perspective.

In the grand scheme of things, being right is fleeting, but being curious can lead to lasting connections and deeper understanding. And who knows? You might just discover that the person on the other side of the aisle (or pizza) has way more in common with you than you ever imagined. So go ahead, embrace curiosity—it’s the key to unlocking conversations that truly matter. And if all else fails, at least you’ll have a great story for your next dinner party!

Now, who’s ready for a slice of that pizza? 🍕

By the way, I am not a fan of pineapple on pizza. I will plant that flag honestly. I am willing to ask why you might like it on yours…?